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An honourable person 

It would be an honour to tell you all about this RAK, but I’m afraid I can’t. You see, it has to be a secret, that’s the rule. It will also remain a secret for at least 12 months, more likely 18.  This act of kindness from us could amount to nothing but, equally, it could be massive. HUGE. We so hope it is. We hope that others will come to know about an amazing person’s way of life, through this RAK.  If this does not pan out the way we hope it will, we will still celebrate in our own way, and we will share what this post is all about in more detail. 

For now,  I will tell you some things about the person for whom this RAK is dedicated. This person is the most selfless of people and even she, for whom this project is dedicated, would have conceded that this person trumps all others in this way. She held this person in such high regard, as do we, and she would be ecstatic that we are attempting to do this for them (apologies for the gender-neutral pronouns, I’m trying to keep it as secret as possible!)

Given that this project will reach its end before we know of the status of this RAK, I need to remain vague as I would not want the person to recognise themselves or work out what this is all about nor for others to either. Suffice to say that this RAK is the one that has taken me the most time in preparing, even longer than the hours I spent running in the May My Marathon! The idea first came to me well over a year ago. I have spent hours, if not days, working on it, researching, and asking others for help. People were only too willing to contribute to this and I value their contributions greatly. Furthermore, having spoken to people about our RAK recipient, it has only made me prouder and more determined to make this work out for them.  For they have no idea, no idea whatsoever, just how extraordinary they are, how they are held in the highest of high regards by so many. They do not seek thanks or praise and are humble. There are not enough superlatives in the English language to do this person justice. 

Very few people know about this RAK, such is its nature. I can think of 8 if you include LJM1 and LJM2 and my husband. They have all been sworn to secrecy for the recipient is not to find out unless it is all a success. I hope that in two years’ time, if not before, I am updating you all with good news and that this person’s kindness and honourable nature can be celebrated in the way that we have planned. Kindness and altruism are at the fore of this RAK, and not from us. Ours is an act of kindness like no other in this project. It is not so much random and about us being kind but it is unique and rather special, rather like its recipient. 

p.s. There are a few clues in this post (picture included). But if you work it out, keep schtum! 

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Is there such a thing as a truly selfless deed?

I remember the episode of Friends where Phoebe and Joey are trying to find the ultimate selfless good deed and how Phoebe learns that there’s no such thing because in doing a good deed one has a sense of pleasure or pride from having done it (something based on Immanuel Kant and true altruism, apparently).

This is true. For all of the good deeds that we have done so far we have experienced different emotions, enjoyment often being one of them. Our enjoyment is therefore juxtaposed with our purpose: to do things to make other people have a happy moment. I guess that’s why we’ve chosen to do keep the project as anonymous as possible. There are one or two people who may have worked out who we are but when it’s a risk that others will work it out (i.e. like the flowers for a relative or the Australia parcel) then we have left out the lovejoinme card and information and have separated the deed from the project name. The cards are there to inspire others to join in too with “pass on the kindness” and “Love. Join Me! ” on the reverse, as her altruism inspired us and she passed her kindness onto us.  The idea is that others join in too (let us know if you have!).

Given that this project is all about someone else and someone else’s kindness and is as much of a gift to that person (or that person’s memory), there will come a time soon where we will publicise what we have done and what we have learned through the process. Here’s where the altruism meets its shaky contender: pride. Should we be proud of our RAKs? We are certainly proud of her, the reason behind the project. So yes, maybe we should be proud of it but the pride doesn’t always sit comfortably. We are not doing this for us, for us to feel good. We are doing it because we want to help people and make others feel good. It’s not about saying “wow! Look what we did!”, it’s about saying “wow! Look what she did, look what she inspired”.

Look how her kindness is carrying on in selfless deeds in her honour and in her name: Love Join Me.  She did all this, not us.