In recent years, I have become familiar with the effects that Domestic Violence and Abuse can have on women and children. It is an often surprising statistic that one in four women will experience domestic violence in their lifetime. Let me just repeat that: ONE IN FOUR! That means that you probably know someone who has suffered it, whether you know of it or not. Since the start of this project I always knew that I wanted to help this cause in some way given that it has severely affected family members but, until now, I have been unsure of how I could make a difference specifically for this project .
Someone offered me kindness yesterday: they offered their hand in friendship to me and my biggest little one at a time when he and I feel very much on the outside and not sure what to expect with him starting school next month. It saddened me, though did not surprise me given the statistics, that she had experienced Domestic Violence and abuse. Her words were familiar to me in that another person who is very close to me has experienced similar. Whilst in many ways the violence is over, the abuse in different ways does not always end. Whilst the violence has ended, the after effects of it on the affected person and their children are immeasurable and have a permanent and changing effect on them as people.
So, this morning, I began to think of how I could help in some way. Neither of these incredibly strong and brave women needed to use directly the services of the charity Refuge but, thankfully, they have accessed support elsewhere. Having said that, many women and children do have to go to refuges. I cannot imagine how difficult that must be for them. Today I purchased an Emergency Pack on Refuge’s Website. The pack contains toiletries, clothing, food and children’s clothing & nappies (if needed) as well as providing emotional support and assessments with the specially trained staff.
This is a quote from the website as to how such things have helped someone:
“I have been welcomed with open arms. The refuge has been my home and it has changed my world. I have changed my outlook on life and being here has made me look at things positively. I can’t explain how grateful I am.” Lucy*, refuge resident (name changed).
I hope that, in some small way, our parcel will help someone who is fleeing from abuse. Having seen the effects first hand, it is so important that people have support and help and are offered, above all else, kindness and the ability to see that they have a future that is much better than the life that they are leaving behind.
I’m worried! 34 days since I posted the Australia parcel for this RAK and I’ve not heard anything. Here are possible scenarios:
- It’s on its way – I have no idea how long it takes to get to a remote island off the coast of Brisbane!
- I got the wrong address (I didn’t ask my cousin as I wanted it to be a surprise)
- It’s arrived but they didn’t notice my name in tiny print on the customs sticker and haven’t shared it on social media, for whatever reason
- It’s arrived but hasn’t found its way to them (I have emailed their place of work/address to see if it’s arrived but have had no response).
- It arrived but Australian customs have rejected it (tea bags allowed?) and it’s on its way back.
So, M & N, when this project is revealed and you still haven’t got your surprises, I am so sorry! I owe you some chocolate/sweets/cups of tea upon your return, if not before!
In the meantime, I really hope it arrives!
Sometimes we need a little treat,
For no reason, just ’cause it’s sweet.
So here you go, enjoy from us,
We hope it gives you a little buzz.
This was our message in a Treat Box ordered anonymously for someone. The box was ordered for no other reason than we thought it was a nice thing to do for that person. We hope it will give her a little moment of calm in her busy life. We left it anonymous as we’re not quite ready to reveal Love Join Me yet and she would definitely work out who we are! We know that she, the original LJM, always thought about our treatbox’s recipient.
Inside we chose to put a bath bomb, a lip balm, a pencil, notebook and pocket mirror. We hope that she shares her surprise on social media (when the parcel arrives in a few days) so that we can update you as to its reception – hopefully with a photo!
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Aged 20 to 21 we both spent time living abroad in a foreign country, away from our family and friends (and each other) and away from familiarity. We both had the most amazing time, an experience which changed us as people and allowed us many opportunities and experiences that we wouldn’t have had otherwise.
It was during this time that she first fell ill. It was incredibly difficult having to leave her at such a difficult time.
It wasn’t until we returned home to see her that we realised just what we had been missing in terms of home comforts. Tea. Proper tea. I gave up trying to make tea in France – no matter what it just wasn’t the same. Cadbury’s chocolate. Maltesers. Crunchies! (As well as gravy and making anything at all in an oven as I didn’t have one!).
So when our cousin moved to Australia for a year it was an ideal opportunity to send a package of goodies – something that I would have loved to receive myself when I was away.
I took my little LJMs to the shop and we chose some items to send: Yorkshire Tea bags, dairy milk, crunchies, maltesers and a selection of kiddy sweets. We then went to the post office to package it all together and post it to Australia. The only downside is that I wasn’t allowed to keep it anonymous, as was my intention, for customs reasons! Still, I am sure it will be very well received. I just hope it gets there as I had to google the address of their resort and hope for the best!