Monthly Archives: February 2016

Putting my face out there to help new mums #20

When I saw a post on Facebook to volunteer to be filmed talking about breastfeeding, I knew straight away that I wanted to be involved. The video was to be shown to new mums to give them real-life experience and advice on breastfeeding.  Both parties of LoveJoinMe are extended breast feeders & one is a peer supporter too, so it’s something that we care about. 

The filming took place in a local Children’s Centre & involved 4 mums from the area. The children’s ages ranged from 12 months to 2.5 years and between us we had a lot of different experiences.  I talked about my bizarre experience with D-MER – Dysphoric Milk Ejection Reflex -, breastfeeding in pregnancy, nursing strike & mastitis as well as the usual experiences of best clothes to wear, feeding in public and where to get support. 

I really hope the video helps others & I can’t wait to see it!

Surprise coffee #rak19

Yesterday when driving home from visiting friends I decided to pass by the Drive Thru to get my husband and I a hot drink. Our neighbour has just got out of hospital and isn’t able to do much at the minute so I decided to surprise him and his partner with a hot drink. I’ve done this in the past (long before LoveJoinMe existed) and never really thought of it as a RAK before, but I guess that’s what it is! 

Pigeon Hole Positivity #18

Tomorrow I plan to deposit chocolate gifts and notes of appreciation in my colleagues’ pigeon holes at work. This poses a big risk in being “discovered” but I’m hoping that those on the receiving end appreciate the anonymity of our kindness campaign if they do figure it out!  The people I’ve chosen to be on the receiving end of this RAK are not those I work particularly closely with on a day to day basis. Instead, they are people who are always positive. Their smiles are genuine, their “how are yous” real and far from a formality.

Every single one of them has, at some point, made me think “s/he is a really nice person” and I want to show my appreciation. Work places need people like you!

So, to those on the receiving end, THANK YOU for having a positive impact on my working life.


Remembering Evan – RAK #16

A year ago today a little boy aged 14 weeks lost his life. I ‘met’ his mum virtually when we were pregnant and joined a Facebook group for babies due in November 2014 and have been  a part of her journey through her discovery of her son’s heart defect while pregnant to the present day. 

Despite being diagnosed with HLHS (Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome), Evan was out of hospital just 11 days after open heart surgery.  He was a beautiful little boy with an adorable smile. Tragically, on 6th Feb 2015, Evan lost his life during a routine outpatients appointment. Only a day after the British Heart Foundation’s Wear it Red day. 
Evan’s mum has raised lots of money for the British Heart Foundation and another charity called Little Hearts Matter. 

This morning on waking next to my own little boy, my thoughts drifted to Evan and his family. I can’t comprehend the pain they must endure everyday without him.  So very grateful for the sleeping child next to me, I donated to the British Heart Foundation in Evan’s memory, then dressed both my son and myself in red. 


Please take a look at the wonderful things Little Hearts Matter and The British Heart Foundation do and, if you can spare some cash, please donate too. 

World Cancer Day

Cancer is everywhere. Sad but true. Every single person I know has been touched by it in some way, some more acutely than others. One day I hope that Cancer is just a sign of the Zodiac. But until then we’re looking for a cure. Things change so quickly. Maybe if she’d been diagnosed today, some 13 years later, she’d have survived.


This RAK number 15 is not just for her; it’s for all cancer sufferers; for those who suffer because of cancer. Because the suffering does not end with a cure. The suffering does not end with a death. It lingers for all eternity leaving a cancer-shaped scar or a cancer-shaped hole in the sufferers and their families. No matter the time that passes, it doesn’t get easier. The one thing that I know will have upset her the most is knowing what her death would do to us. But it’s not her fault; it’s cancer’s.

We both donated to the cause today for World Cancer Day. Maybe one day there won’t be such a day. Here’s hoping.